Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Feet and Seats


I visited my son Ben at Teen Mania's Honor Academy during the Week of the Ring Celebration, and got to attend an early morning class with him. That morning Ron Luce taught on marriage, and gave the kids some excellent, biblical guidelines for picking a mate later in life. Looking back at my years as a young believer, I wish I had heard Ron's teaching from that morning before I picked my wife. I might have made a wiser decision, and spent more time preparing for marriage rather than just jumping in.

But I digress.

Sitting in the large all purpose meeting room that is used for morning classes, afternoon chapel, and special occasions, Ron was no more than 5 minutes into his lecture notes when he shouted “Feet.”

Instantly all the interns shuffled to their feet, and patiently waited for Ron to give them permission to sit back down. “Seats,” he said after a dozen or so seconds. He paused and looked around the class room for some of his favorite students, looking the sleepy ones in the eyes. “It's OK to be tired when your an intern. We work hard, and keep you going for long hours each day.” A muffled assent arose from the student body. The clock shown 9:18, and while most of the students were awake, a few were definitely not early morning people. “But it's not OK to fall asleep in class.”

After a few more paragraphs, “Feet!” and the students stood up, shaking off the early morning mental cobwebs again. “Seats.” . . . and the lecture resumed. The commands continued, with decreasing frequency, for the first half hour of the two hour class session until the room was alert and attentive.

While this may sound odd to those of us who are never in a physically and academically demanding environment, here is the picture of the alternative from a typical college or university. Students avoid early morning classes. Most s​students won't voluntarily pick classes before 10:00 because it's too hard for them to get going after gaming, talking, or drinking well into the wee hours of the previous morning. Students in a typical 8:00 or 9:00 college class wander in up to 15 minutes late, and as a professor looks around the room, it's not uncommon to see heads down on their desks as students renew friendships with their dreams. Guys are dressed in t-shirts and last nights athletic shorts while girls give themselves permission to pull a sweatshirt on over their favorite sleep-ware.

What a difference between “Average” and “Intentional Excellence.” The Honor Academy is an odd environment for some. If you've experienced a military setting, it may be more familiar. But does it fit in a Christian ministry, and is it suited for young adult interns?

Some say no. Some say this is abusive and authoritarian. Some bloggers have made a campaign of slandering Teen Mania because they didn't have a “good experience” and the environment was too “harsh and authoritative.”

Personally, I think this environment is a good thing for young adults. Too many parents raise their kids as friends rather than parents, expecting that the relationship will keep the kids on the right path. Their kids are never pushed to discover the depth of skill, ability and desire for excellence which God placed deep in their hearts. As a result, we have a generation that believes everyone that competes in an athletic event should get a trophy, and everyone who tries deserves to be rewarded, regardless of their results.

Paul didn't describe following Jesus in these foolish terms. He talked about disciplining his body, so that at the end of the race, he wouldn't be disqualified. Jesus talked about denying yourself, and picking up a personal cross daily as we followed Him. He led his disciples in regular fasting as a way of dis-empowering his flesh to intentionally pursue a closer relationship with his Father. And he called his followers to do and be the same kind of person.

Proverbs says “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, and the rod of correction will drive it from him.” I don't think Solomon was talking about beating and abusing children. His words spell out an expectation that adulthood, and spiritual maturity isn't reached without a level of discipline, correction, setting higher expectations, and experiencing the consequences of our choices. Without someone who says to our young adults “You can do more. You can set and reach higher goals,” the gravitational pull of adolescence is more than they can escape.

And without people like Ron Luce and the Honor Academy who say “Follow me, and I will teach, and insist, that you learn how to reach these goals, the vision often becomes blurred by selfishness, personal preferences.

Personally, I am glad these skills and experiences are being taught somewhere.


Thursday, November 24, 2011

Welcome Home Ben

This Mama is  in awe of what God has done in the short time that Ben has been away at the Honor Academy!  Ben landed and got off the plan and I could visibly see the changes in him.   While he has given God this year as an offering to Him God has taken the reins.  He has made him into a softer, gentler version of himself.  He has removed character flaws and changed his entire demeanor.  I believe that because Ben is honoring God by giving him the year of his life that God is just blessing his socks off.  Thank you Honor Academy staff and leaders for pouring into our son.  It does not go unnoticed.  We are a thankful bunch!!!  I stand amazed at what God has done and will continue to do in our son and the others at the Honor Academy who continue to submit to His will!

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Invited In, Part 2


Part of the Teen Mania's Outdoor Exercise Course for Interns
When I was in grade school and high school sports, I remember two coaches which pushed me and my teammates far beyond what we thought we were capable of. We endured double and triple session  practices under hot, humid Michigan August skies. I remember the first time I ran 10 miles, keeping pace with my cross country coach. (Looking back, I'm sure he let me keep up with him) I felt genuine pride when I completed those milestones, even though my muscles hurt, and I fell into bed early and  exhausted. I saw the same pride on my son's face that afternoon, and on the face of the nameless, jogging intern as they talked about ESOAL, and inviting us into their accomplishments.

I think there are times in life when you have to go through something to understand it. If my mom would have been standing on the side of the field while I endured calisthenics and grueling football drills, I don't think she would have understood. She may have yelled at the coach, demanding that he back off. But then, if he had, we may not have earned the city championship football title that year. A recent MSNBC 'expose' on Teen Mania's Honor Academy certainly falls into the "doesn't understand" camp.

Good coaches know that their players have to be pushed, not only so they can learn the sport, but so they can discover the potential that God put deep inside them. Th leaders at Teen Mania's Honor Academy also know how to push the interns, and help them find and develop their spiritual, emotional and physical abilities. Is it hard work for the interns? Yes. Can it be misunderstood by the outside world, who only looks on? Yes, it can be. Is it the perfect environment for all young Christians? Probably not. A physically, emotionally and spiritually demanding environment isn't the right Petri dish for every Christian's growth. Looking back at my high school, out of a class of more than two hundred, less than 25 were on the football team. That doesn't make the non-players any less important. It just means that God created them for another purpose.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Invited In, part 1


One of Teen Mania's Campus Dorms
In the spring of 2010, I visited my son while he was an intern at Teen Mania's Honor Academy. He wanted to show me around the ranch's property, and on Saturday afternoon, we took a casual walk under the bright blue Texas sky. He showed me the physical training area, and the obstacle course designed to challenge the interns' physical maturity. We walked through the camping area that would be filled with missionaries during the summer, the high ropes course and paintball fields that are part of the summer Extreme Camps. He pointed out the hilly terrain spotted with prairie grass, turf and tufts of scraggly trees growing out of the red East Texas clay soil. He described with pride the year's LTE's (Life Transforming Events) that HA interns experience, including ESAOL, which has been remade into the PEARL.

Some of the camping quarters, ready for summer missionaries.
The road back to the main training and office building held special significance for me. Over 25 years ago, a Christian musician named Keith Green used that road as a runway for his ministry's small plane, and took off for the last time. His plane crashed, unexpectedly taking Keith and two of his young children to Heaven. As a young Christian, I remember hearing the news on the radio, and I felt a personal loss of a voice that spoke deeply into my heart.

As we headed back toward the main campus, another intern passed us. She was jogging, and as she passed, she and my son Ben shared a few words that created another indelible impression of how this ranch in East Texas is still transforming young lives or Christ. I don't know her name, but she wasn't particularly athletic and worked hard as she jogged up the road toward us.

“Is that your dad?” she asked Ben as she approached.
“Yes, I wanted to show him where we did ESOAL.” Ben beamed as he replied.
“Yes, I brought my mom back here too.” Her face flashed a smile that welled up from deep within. Her face showed no fear, or angst as she remembered ESOAL, only pride, and a joy that she shared with her mom earlier in the day.  With those few words, she passed us and the encounter was over.

It's not often that a dad gets invited into their teen's world. I felt blessed to have spent the afternoon walking and talking about Ben's months on campus, and to be invited into the memory of an LTE event that had meant so much to both of them.

(To be continued . . .)

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

conflict

My heart is so torn.  Before we would have ever sent our son to the Honor Academy we of course did much research.  I talked to many people who have students there.  I talked to many students who are there.  I talked to leadership at the Honor Academy and I did many many online searches and read the good and the bad about the Honor Academy.  The students and parents of students that I spoke with had nothing but good to tell me about the Honor Academy.  Some of what I read online was another story.  This terrified me. So as a family we relied on the speaker of truth.  The Holy Spirit.  God made it very very clear to us as a family that The Honor Academy was where Ben was to be.   We prayed for clarity and it was given.  We prayed for financial provision and it was and is continuing to be given.  We now as a family pray for healing of wounded hearts, forgiveness, healing, and reconciliation.  It truly grieves my heart that young people have been hurt and it truly grieves my heart that a ministry is being so caught up in the mess of people's mistakes of the past.  So as my mother-in-law used to say..."I go back to the corner to pray".