Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Feet and Seats


I visited my son Ben at Teen Mania's Honor Academy during the Week of the Ring Celebration, and got to attend an early morning class with him. That morning Ron Luce taught on marriage, and gave the kids some excellent, biblical guidelines for picking a mate later in life. Looking back at my years as a young believer, I wish I had heard Ron's teaching from that morning before I picked my wife. I might have made a wiser decision, and spent more time preparing for marriage rather than just jumping in.

But I digress.

Sitting in the large all purpose meeting room that is used for morning classes, afternoon chapel, and special occasions, Ron was no more than 5 minutes into his lecture notes when he shouted “Feet.”

Instantly all the interns shuffled to their feet, and patiently waited for Ron to give them permission to sit back down. “Seats,” he said after a dozen or so seconds. He paused and looked around the class room for some of his favorite students, looking the sleepy ones in the eyes. “It's OK to be tired when your an intern. We work hard, and keep you going for long hours each day.” A muffled assent arose from the student body. The clock shown 9:18, and while most of the students were awake, a few were definitely not early morning people. “But it's not OK to fall asleep in class.”

After a few more paragraphs, “Feet!” and the students stood up, shaking off the early morning mental cobwebs again. “Seats.” . . . and the lecture resumed. The commands continued, with decreasing frequency, for the first half hour of the two hour class session until the room was alert and attentive.

While this may sound odd to those of us who are never in a physically and academically demanding environment, here is the picture of the alternative from a typical college or university. Students avoid early morning classes. Most s​students won't voluntarily pick classes before 10:00 because it's too hard for them to get going after gaming, talking, or drinking well into the wee hours of the previous morning. Students in a typical 8:00 or 9:00 college class wander in up to 15 minutes late, and as a professor looks around the room, it's not uncommon to see heads down on their desks as students renew friendships with their dreams. Guys are dressed in t-shirts and last nights athletic shorts while girls give themselves permission to pull a sweatshirt on over their favorite sleep-ware.

What a difference between “Average” and “Intentional Excellence.” The Honor Academy is an odd environment for some. If you've experienced a military setting, it may be more familiar. But does it fit in a Christian ministry, and is it suited for young adult interns?

Some say no. Some say this is abusive and authoritarian. Some bloggers have made a campaign of slandering Teen Mania because they didn't have a “good experience” and the environment was too “harsh and authoritative.”

Personally, I think this environment is a good thing for young adults. Too many parents raise their kids as friends rather than parents, expecting that the relationship will keep the kids on the right path. Their kids are never pushed to discover the depth of skill, ability and desire for excellence which God placed deep in their hearts. As a result, we have a generation that believes everyone that competes in an athletic event should get a trophy, and everyone who tries deserves to be rewarded, regardless of their results.

Paul didn't describe following Jesus in these foolish terms. He talked about disciplining his body, so that at the end of the race, he wouldn't be disqualified. Jesus talked about denying yourself, and picking up a personal cross daily as we followed Him. He led his disciples in regular fasting as a way of dis-empowering his flesh to intentionally pursue a closer relationship with his Father. And he called his followers to do and be the same kind of person.

Proverbs says “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, and the rod of correction will drive it from him.” I don't think Solomon was talking about beating and abusing children. His words spell out an expectation that adulthood, and spiritual maturity isn't reached without a level of discipline, correction, setting higher expectations, and experiencing the consequences of our choices. Without someone who says to our young adults “You can do more. You can set and reach higher goals,” the gravitational pull of adolescence is more than they can escape.

And without people like Ron Luce and the Honor Academy who say “Follow me, and I will teach, and insist, that you learn how to reach these goals, the vision often becomes blurred by selfishness, personal preferences.

Personally, I am glad these skills and experiences are being taught somewhere.


Thursday, November 24, 2011

Welcome Home Ben

This Mama is  in awe of what God has done in the short time that Ben has been away at the Honor Academy!  Ben landed and got off the plan and I could visibly see the changes in him.   While he has given God this year as an offering to Him God has taken the reins.  He has made him into a softer, gentler version of himself.  He has removed character flaws and changed his entire demeanor.  I believe that because Ben is honoring God by giving him the year of his life that God is just blessing his socks off.  Thank you Honor Academy staff and leaders for pouring into our son.  It does not go unnoticed.  We are a thankful bunch!!!  I stand amazed at what God has done and will continue to do in our son and the others at the Honor Academy who continue to submit to His will!

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Invited In, Part 2


Part of the Teen Mania's Outdoor Exercise Course for Interns
When I was in grade school and high school sports, I remember two coaches which pushed me and my teammates far beyond what we thought we were capable of. We endured double and triple session  practices under hot, humid Michigan August skies. I remember the first time I ran 10 miles, keeping pace with my cross country coach. (Looking back, I'm sure he let me keep up with him) I felt genuine pride when I completed those milestones, even though my muscles hurt, and I fell into bed early and  exhausted. I saw the same pride on my son's face that afternoon, and on the face of the nameless, jogging intern as they talked about ESOAL, and inviting us into their accomplishments.

I think there are times in life when you have to go through something to understand it. If my mom would have been standing on the side of the field while I endured calisthenics and grueling football drills, I don't think she would have understood. She may have yelled at the coach, demanding that he back off. But then, if he had, we may not have earned the city championship football title that year. A recent MSNBC 'expose' on Teen Mania's Honor Academy certainly falls into the "doesn't understand" camp.

Good coaches know that their players have to be pushed, not only so they can learn the sport, but so they can discover the potential that God put deep inside them. Th leaders at Teen Mania's Honor Academy also know how to push the interns, and help them find and develop their spiritual, emotional and physical abilities. Is it hard work for the interns? Yes. Can it be misunderstood by the outside world, who only looks on? Yes, it can be. Is it the perfect environment for all young Christians? Probably not. A physically, emotionally and spiritually demanding environment isn't the right Petri dish for every Christian's growth. Looking back at my high school, out of a class of more than two hundred, less than 25 were on the football team. That doesn't make the non-players any less important. It just means that God created them for another purpose.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Invited In, part 1


One of Teen Mania's Campus Dorms
In the spring of 2010, I visited my son while he was an intern at Teen Mania's Honor Academy. He wanted to show me around the ranch's property, and on Saturday afternoon, we took a casual walk under the bright blue Texas sky. He showed me the physical training area, and the obstacle course designed to challenge the interns' physical maturity. We walked through the camping area that would be filled with missionaries during the summer, the high ropes course and paintball fields that are part of the summer Extreme Camps. He pointed out the hilly terrain spotted with prairie grass, turf and tufts of scraggly trees growing out of the red East Texas clay soil. He described with pride the year's LTE's (Life Transforming Events) that HA interns experience, including ESAOL, which has been remade into the PEARL.

Some of the camping quarters, ready for summer missionaries.
The road back to the main training and office building held special significance for me. Over 25 years ago, a Christian musician named Keith Green used that road as a runway for his ministry's small plane, and took off for the last time. His plane crashed, unexpectedly taking Keith and two of his young children to Heaven. As a young Christian, I remember hearing the news on the radio, and I felt a personal loss of a voice that spoke deeply into my heart.

As we headed back toward the main campus, another intern passed us. She was jogging, and as she passed, she and my son Ben shared a few words that created another indelible impression of how this ranch in East Texas is still transforming young lives or Christ. I don't know her name, but she wasn't particularly athletic and worked hard as she jogged up the road toward us.

“Is that your dad?” she asked Ben as she approached.
“Yes, I wanted to show him where we did ESOAL.” Ben beamed as he replied.
“Yes, I brought my mom back here too.” Her face flashed a smile that welled up from deep within. Her face showed no fear, or angst as she remembered ESOAL, only pride, and a joy that she shared with her mom earlier in the day.  With those few words, she passed us and the encounter was over.

It's not often that a dad gets invited into their teen's world. I felt blessed to have spent the afternoon walking and talking about Ben's months on campus, and to be invited into the memory of an LTE event that had meant so much to both of them.

(To be continued . . .)

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

conflict

My heart is so torn.  Before we would have ever sent our son to the Honor Academy we of course did much research.  I talked to many people who have students there.  I talked to many students who are there.  I talked to leadership at the Honor Academy and I did many many online searches and read the good and the bad about the Honor Academy.  The students and parents of students that I spoke with had nothing but good to tell me about the Honor Academy.  Some of what I read online was another story.  This terrified me. So as a family we relied on the speaker of truth.  The Holy Spirit.  God made it very very clear to us as a family that The Honor Academy was where Ben was to be.   We prayed for clarity and it was given.  We prayed for financial provision and it was and is continuing to be given.  We now as a family pray for healing of wounded hearts, forgiveness, healing, and reconciliation.  It truly grieves my heart that young people have been hurt and it truly grieves my heart that a ministry is being so caught up in the mess of people's mistakes of the past.  So as my mother-in-law used to say..."I go back to the corner to pray".

Monday, November 7, 2011

Equal time?


The Duncans, whom I mentioned in my previous posts, have been in contact with me, asking me to publish their point of view here.  Wendy Duncan wrote me, and commented that, "All truth is God's truth." I believe her words were meant to motivate, and maybe challenge me to post her views on this blog.

My response is simple: That's not what this blog is for.

There are apparently many venues created by the RA bloggers in their zeal to pursue and denigrate the Honor Academy that accept hostile opinions about Teen Mania and the Honor Academy internship.  This blog is a place to publish good news, and for parents to talk about how God has worked in our kids' lives. Through the ministry's commitment to connecting the dots between today's ever-changing young generation's world and God's timeless call to holiness and salvation in Christ, our kids are learning the gospel in a way that is real, and builds character and the kingdom in their hearts and lives.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

So What is a Cult?

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A cult is identified as a religious group that distorts biblical truth in one or more of the following points. While twisting any one of these is enough for a group to legitimately earn the title of Cult, you will find that if a religious leader or group distorts one, they usually stray on all four.
  1. The deity of Jesus: God's word teaches that Jesus is the only Son of God, fully man and fully God. Universally, cults deny this biblical truth. They insist he is a good man, or “a god”as in one of many, of a great teacher. Cults deny that Jesus Christ is God in the flesh.
  2. The deity and person hood of the Holy Spirit: God's word teaches that the Holy Spirit is a person. He can be grieved, and offended. The Holy Spirit is referred to with all the power and authority of God. Peter, in Acts 5, tells Ananias that he didn't lie to man, but to God when he says that the deceptive disciple lied about the money he gave to the church. Cults universally deny this truth. Cults describe the Holy spirit as the force of god, the presence of god, or the influence of god in believers lives. Other, more eastern cults describe the Holy Spirit as the universal force that is shared by all living beings. “May the force be with you, Luke.”

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Letting go

Letting go started for me on August 19th when our son drove out of our driveway and took off for Texas to begin his internship at the Honor Academy.   Never did I know that letting go would be so hard.  God had shown us this was His plan for Ben but are we moms ever ready to send our children
across the country?...I suspect not.

Well, although the process has been incredibly difficult for me I can see incredible results!!
God is working like crazy in Ben!  He is pulling things out of Ben that weren't good for him and is replacing them with creativity, passion, independence while at the same time being reliant on Him!!
He is making Ben into the man He would have him be which is far greater than the man I could ever hope or imagine him to be. 

So as I continue to take my hands off of my son and leave him in the hands of his Father I also learn a trust lesson.  With each step of trust I take I am blown away by the work He does in Ben.

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

The Duncan's Shallow Evaluation

The following is Part 3 of my response to the Duncan's article, as quoted by RA bloggers. The Duncan's wrote a cult is “A group or movement that to a significant degree:

a) “exhibits great or excessive devotion to some person, idea, or thing” By this definition, every Christ-follower is a member of a cult. I am excessively devoted to Christ. I read his instructions to take up my cross, deny what I would rather do, and follow Him, and I believe that Jesus meant what He said. His followers obeyed these words too, as did the first century church, and the Christian church throughout history. We are called to forsake a comfortable, self focused life and pursue Christ where ever He leads. And I have never been happier than when I pursue Jesus on his terms.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Cults, Culture and Unfounded Allegations

I've studied and taught extensively on cults. Whenever God's Spirit pours out his power to build God's kingdom, the gates of hell respond, and issue a stale blast of hell's own confusion and distortion of the truth. When I came to Christ at the end of the Jesus movement, non-traditional churches offered a smorgasbord of spiritual meals. The Children of God said they were God's true people. The Mormons and Jehovah's Witnesses made a resurgent comeback. The Way, Intl. was founded by Victor Paul Wierwille, and Scientology was launched by former science fiction author L Ron Hubbard. The 70's and 80's were filled with new, non-traditional ways which tangled young believers in spiritual untruth. I lost a lot of friends to these spiritual potholes.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

A Parent's Response to the Recovering Alumni Bloggers, Pt.1


I recently came across the Recovering Alumni blog (RA). Actually they found me after I wrote abvout my support for the Teen Mania's Honor Academy. Written by students who attended Teen Mania's internship, the RA blog accuses the ministry of emotionally, spiritually, and physically abusing their interns. As a parent with a son at the Teen Mania's Honor Academy, I read the blog to try and understand the position of kids who declared they had to “recover” from the Honor Academy. I'm troubled, not only by the statements coming from this blog, but by the damage that's happening within the body of Christ, between groups who are now at odds because of misunderstanding, and emotionally painful events. These actions aren't consistent with a heart focused on building the kingdom.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

and God proved himself real

WE had tried to figure out how we were going to pay for Ben's Honor Academy year or two or three.   We do not normally have that much extra every month to go towards that and we couldnt take loans out so we were completely dependent on God to provide.   We prayed as a family.  We prayed individually.  We had our friends praying.  We prayed alot.  We KNEW Ben was to go but didn't know how we would make it all happen.  That was the problem.  WE couldn't make it happen.  But God could and He did.  We recieved two phone calls the next day each providing finances in a different way.  Ben is there and is doing well.  What a faith builder for our family and even our friends.  I just needed to learn that sometimes I have to get ME out of the way for HIM to step in!!!  What an awesome God we serve!!!

Saturday, September 24, 2011

A year in retrospect

Last year at this time was the first time that my husband and I had ever heard of a place called The Honor Academy.   A friend of Ben's had mentioned it to him and he really wanted to go.  I googled it and immediately knew my son would be going away and my husband also had the peace of God that this was to be where Ben would go as well.  The rest of the year went by and we didn't think much about this Honor Academy. Ben went to the campus preview weekend and was blown away...loved everything about it but didnt know if he was meant to be there.  Then came July and into August and Ben was thinking more about going there but was still unsure.  Time continued to march on and Ben was still unsure but we were getting antsy for him to make his decision.   I continued to be antsy because I really like my ducks in a row and it was getting time to register for classes here if he wasn't going away.  Finally I just surrendered it and asked God to have his way as I was completely at the end of myself.....just wait til you hear what God did next.....

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

and he is off on his Godventure!!

Well, this is the day we had been dreaming of for years as we asked God to use him mightily....My son has always had a passion for drumming and when the opportunity of training to drum for the Acquire the Fire internship came up he jumped at the chance. He is attending the School of Worship where he will learn to be a part of a worship team.   So on August 17 he left for Texas to be an intern at the Honor Academy ...he is currently serving to recruit more interest for the Honor Academy while being discipled and maturing in the Lord.....I will be keeping you updated on What the Lord is doing in and through him and other young people while they serve at the Honor Academy...stay tuned!!!